Before the wedding, keep both eyes open...

After the wedding, keep both eyes shut if you have to!

Mom was telling me some stories about this super flirtatious old man whom she knows who has like 1 official wife and at least 3 mistresses.

The official wife has since left the old man because she could not tolerate his flirtatious ways. Even his mistresses are complaining about his roving eye and complain non-stop.

Chubby Hubby once said, "Choosing to marry someone is like a set meal and package deal. Even if you don't like something, you don't really have a choice. So either you learn to love everything, or else you have to reject everything. If you want to pick and choose, then go a la carte"

I agree. The same applies. These mistresses and wife of the man complain like crazy and pick bitch fights amongst theimselves fighting for his attention (and money, I should think). They complain all the time that the man has got the roving eye and is never sex-tified.

The thing is, I don't think he turned Casanova overnight. Chances are, he was already like that when they got to know him.

What? Did they expect that he become a one-woman man just because they are with him? Pur-leeze... A leopard can hardly expect to change its spots. Did they honestly expect that he would give up the forest for a handful of trees? What on earth would even make them entertain the thought? They aren't his first women, so I definitely don't think they're his last.

Same goes. When you are dating, keep your eyes open, date as many as possible until you have fully weighed all that is most important to you. Once you are married, love that person and don't expect to change that person to something else that he/she is not.

And if that person is a Casanova, pauper or whatever that you later find that you cannot tolerate, I advise you to stop and think. Afterall, no one pointed a gun at you to ask you to marry him/her. If something bugs you now, stop and think. If it really matters to you, work it out. Otherwise, break up and move on.

Don't wait. He may be wonderful in many ways, but if there's really something that bugs you now, which you think you have the ability to change because, "if he/she loves me enough, he/she will find the change a good one," then sorry.. snap outta it, because it ain't gonna happen.

But if you can live with it, congratulations!